my laundry

So I am really frustrated with my laundry. 

I used to be able to keep up pretty well with laundry but now I am surrounded by mounds of clothes...it's amazing what adding one tiny human being can do to your laundry. 

I need some feedback...please! Boone probably goes through 3 outfits a day on average. He blows out his diapers every day. Even the namebrand diapers don't work. I thought maybe his diapers were too small so I moved him up a size (3!) and he still blows them out. Maybe it's just the way his pipes work.

I am having to wash his clothes sometimes 3-4 times just to get the stain out. I rinse them out and put Oxyclean on them and it still does not work. 

Here is my question: Is it my washing machine not doing what it's suppose to or is it my detergent/stain remover?

I use Purex free and clear and Oxyclean...they are not getting the job done.

And sometimes it's not just Boone's clothes I have a hard time with, it's the rest of the family too.

I shouldn't have to wash clothes over and over again-right?

Help me out. Do I change detergent? Stain remover? Liquid detergent or powdered? Do you know of a good one to try? I need suggestions. 

Help!